Making Our Own Spring

Here I sit, in my favorite room of my house, cultivating my piece of peace. I am staring at my beautiful pitcher full of tulips, the soft shade of pink fading to blush. The vibrant green stems, reminding me of Spring. Outside, all around me, snow is falling madly from the sky. It feels like the Universe is saying, “We are not in the clear yet.” March is when we begin to think of Spring. We all relax a little. Conversations are peppered with the question, “Do you really think we will have more snow? Even if we do, it should melt quickly.”

No one can control the weather. We learn that so early on in our lives. I can remember one Fourth of July we were set to throw a large party. We always have a get together on the Fourth because it is my mother in law’s birthday. We were expecting a larger crowd than usual that year. Our house was a charming three bedroom home, but it could not accommodate this crowd. As rain poured down all around us, we had a great time, despite the weather. We made our own fun.

Our boys, now five and seven, still love when it rains. They find the joy in something that could ruin their playtime. Instead of being upset that it is not optimal weather to ride bikes in, they put on their rain boots and jump in puddles. This is very much a metaphor for my own life. My family and I have suffered a tragic event that could keep us from ever finding joy again. It would be so easy to take that path and dwell on the negative. My husband and I made a pact, however, that we would not do that. We promised that we would do everything in our power to find those puddles and allow out boys to jump in them. We even promised that we would jump with them.

It’s so easy to allow sadness and anxiety to run your life, in any case. I always say, “We all have something”. Everyone has experienced tough times. Some are more extenuating than others. We have suffered a nightmare. It is not always easy to be present and make new memories. If we don’t though, all we are left with is sadness. It wouldn’t be fair to our two beautiful boys who have already had more sadness in their few years than some people have in their whole lives. And so each day, we jump in the puddles. Sometimes we make a bigger splash than others, and sometimes those puddles include sadness. As long as we continue to fulfill our pact, our living boys will be able to experience happiness alongside sadness. As always, love to heaven…


  1. Rebecca Bonhomme says:

    So true Cara. You and Anthony have a amazing outlook despite your crippling loss. You are in inspiration to all. ❤️


  2. nonalcoholicstudent says:

    I don’t know if this comment is going to make any sense to anyone else other than me but there was something so raw and honest in this post. Your writing style, to me, is so beautifully melancholic. Thank you so much for sharing this! 🙂


  3. Jill OBrien says:

    Your writing is so visceral I feel, see, smell, touch, and hear you and your family on your journey. Thank you for sharing your “piece of peace.” So grateful for you, Cara.


  4. Julie says:

    Beautiful, thank you for sharing. May I ask what the “2 minutes tag” at the top represents? Is that the approximate time required to read one of your articles? Thank you.


    1. Hi Julie! Yes, that is the approximate time it takes to read an article.


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